Fitness and health

Missing a Sense of Purpose

It is now five years since I left my fabulous government job assisting businesses with their growth and development. 

I took early retirement as a package was available and I saw my retirement as time with my daughter as she started her family as well as an opportunity to operate a micro business.

In those 5 years I have become a nana to two beautiful grand daughters and spent many hours caring for them. Many more hours than I anticipated due to baby sleep issues and suddenly finding myself in a carer role of my elderly mother.  My eldest grand daughter started school this year, so I only really see her at school pick up – three times a week. But no longer for regular full days. The youngest who is 3, we care for each Thursday.

So early in the year and with the reduction of need for caring, I have found myself struggling. I am missing a sense of purpose. A sense of feeling belonging.  A sense of feeling fulfilled and making a difference.

I have started the year determined to improve my health after 3 weeks of physio on my back. I attend a community centre and attend stretching and Pilate classes. I plan to book time with a personal trainer to help me keep on track. I have booked sessions with a psychologist/hypnotherapist to assist overcome some childhood issues.

On the wellbeing side – I have joined a women’s group choir.  The group sits or stands in a circle and harmonises. I found out it is a form of cappella singing. I loved it. It made me feel grounded, relaxed and uplifted at the same time.

I love to of the ‘songs’ Bella Mama’ and The River Flowing. Below are some links to some You Tube of these songs and type of singing.

After much research, I joined  a local VIEW Club – which is a group for women that raises money for The Smith Family who in turn provide financial support to disadvantaged children. Not long after joining I volunteered for the committee and as assistant secretary am the guest speaker organiser.

Sigh……I just feel brain dead. I feel a lack of stimulation. A lack of purpose.  I am still busy assisting and providing care for my elderly mum. The hours of care depend on her health.  I have just come out of two months of intensive care hours after she had had a fall.

As a celebrant I have conducted a few weddings.

But  I am over being involved in all the stress of brides and weddings. Well at least the very big weddings. I still enjoy the small weddings of 2 – 20 guests. Especially when held on a property or backyard of a home. Just so much more relaxed and intimate.

However I am seriously considering retiring and handing in my celebrant registration.

So, now what to do.  I looked at University of the Third Age, but nothing I am interested in is available on my pockets of available time. That is of course part of my dilemma .  I have pockets of availability in between when I help mum, take her out, take her shopping etc, the day I mind my grand daughter, being at the school by 2.30pm to get a car park close enough for pick up of the eldest grand daughter – then minding them both until 5pm. I also set aside time for the hubby – he is at golf 3 times a week.

Soooooooooo!  What can I do to stimulate my mind. What can I do that will give me a sense of purpose. I just feel the days and weeks are passing so quickly.

What do I want to do with my life? I don’t want to ‘just fill in the hours’, with gym, lunches, bowls – oh I did try some bowls but then it go SO HOT! – I will look at that in the cooler months. I learnt crochet. Loved that but made everything I really want to make. Will look at making some items to donate.

My thoughts are join and volunteer with another charity. Maybe some volunteer office work. Perhaps use my event management background and stage an event of some sort.

My needs are – new friendships in my age bracket for now until………..well …until death us to part! As well as brain stimulation and a sense of purpose.

Well it is now time to think about dinner – gawd……I am after nearly 43 years of marriage over coming up with ideas for dinner. Thank goodness for the good old basics of spag bolg, sausages, roast chicken!  I love baking – but everything I love to bake my daughter tells me has too much sugar! And hubby has asked when I am going to diet and lose weight! ARGH! 

Oh look, it is wine o’clock…………..must go!


Add a spice and zing to improve your life and health

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I felt like I had flat lined this year.  Actually it has been a year of mostly caring. And to do that I have just had to go with each day as it came.  Minding and caring for grand daughters, helping an anxious, stressed daughter and an increasingly obviously aging elderly mum.

Good intentions of going to the gym classes on a regular basis…didn’t happen. And I just wasn’t able to shake my addition to cappuccino sachets for morning tea with a slice of cake.  Adding spice and zing to improve my life and health – hey, I was so so tired….I was happy just to make it through the day….to wine o’clock.  Glass of wine, couple of nibbles….and bed at 7.30 or 8.00pm – alone with a book!  No, not a 50 Shades of Grey book….yes I did have a squiz at a copy. Really??? Hmmm, did a bloke write that?

Well said the doctor….your thyroid has deteriorated. Yes you will have to take tablets for the rest of your life. No there is no cure. It will just get worse.

A bit of research…and well I don’t want it to get worse.  Hey healthy lifestyle, eating  exercise, less stress….that will help. Mind you, gawd, the things you should not eat when you have Hashimoto!

So whilst little grand daughters have been asleep and I have been unable to leave the house, I started doing some research.  I have also attended a number of cooking classes as my stable food is Spag Bol, hamburgers, salmon or tuna hamburgers and chicken curry of some sort using a packet mix.  Oh and small quiches, which my daughter devours….so they are a regular bake….along with cakes. Well I am a nannie, and need to pass on my great baking skills to the 2 year old, who loves baking cakes (and enjoys eating them as much as her nannie) !

I have no chocolate in the house. I ate it all.  If someone brings chocolate home and leaves it here, I do the a favour and it to save them calories, and to get rid of it as quickly as possible.

OK, so where does the zing and spice come in?  If I write the topic heading  I think the search engines like it. Ha ha…so here it is: Add a spice and zing to improve your life and health.

yes there is an oil for thatEssential Oils.

Citrus – Lemon or Lime – I have started to add that not only to some water I drink during the day. Orange Essential Oil, gives me a lift of energy when I have it in a diffuser.

I have Lavender Oil on a piece of felt, which I have placed inside a special oil jewellery diffuser. I have a sniff of that, to keep me calm and minimise my anxiousness. I also have that in a diffuser.  –

I have just ordered the cinnamon essential oil.  I have found a receipe for apples and the cinnamon essential oil.  Another thing I am addicted to and use in all my cake baking – far exceeding the receipe amount.

I bought the Doterra Physician kit as it comes with a range of fabulous oils.

So my spice and zing is definitely from using a range of essential oils – straight or blended.  I find they give me more energy, or help to calm me down. I sleep so much better.  So yes both spectrums – of energy and calm.

Doterra Essential Oils.  Love them. And they also donate huge amounts to third world countries. 

The zing is also the interest in not only learning but also:

  • developing a passive income
  • attending seminars and meetings
  • arranging presentations
  • meeting and chatting with the person I signed with
  • deeper friendships and support with those who signed with me

Yep multi level marketing I think you would call it.  Never ever been tempted to do this before. Would run a mile.

But this time, I love the products. I understand the potential health benefits of the products.  I understand the business opportunity. I love the learning.

Finally, I am at that intersection in life. It is the right time.

So are you ready to add a spice and zing to improve your life and health?

If you would like to start ordering beautiful essential oils and natural skin products you can order direct from my page:

In the meantime I am off…..Maddy wants to play fairies. So time to put on my fairy costume and sprinkle some fairy dust!

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